Friday, February 17, 2017

Review: The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker
My rating: 3 of 5 stars


The Gift of Fear is not typically the type of book that I enjoy reading. It almost felt like homework, and because of that took me a while to finish. Why then did I keep reading? Because it was interesting, and a lot of the information was useful. Gavin de Becker is a well-known expert on violent behavior, and he shares the information he has learned about our body's own natural defense system, fear. Fear, which is not to be confused with anxiety or worry, is brought on by a real threat that your body has sensed even before your mind knows why. Using that and the things learned here will give you a head start on keeping you and your loved ones safe. Throughout the book, the reader is given many true accounts from the last few decades, along with an insider's perspective.


“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways; It is always in response to something. It always has your best interest at heart”

“It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different--men and women live in different worlds...at core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them.”

“We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning. Like rapport-building, charm and the deceptive smile, unsolicited niceness often has a discoverable motive.”


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